When the topic of marriage was doing rounds at my parents in hyderbad and also in the apartment where I lived in the US, I told my parents there should be no mention of dowry. That was the beginning and end of the conversation on dowry.
On my wedding day, while I was going around meeting people, of course after all the wedding rituals were completed, I met a group of 10-15 people all sitting in a corner. They included men, women, elderly and a few kids as well. I only knew one person from that group and he was a relative of my friend. He said everyone else came from the village just to see me, because I had refused to take dowry. They travelled 10 – 12 hours or even more including the stoppages, just to meet me and what had I done, not take dowry ? At that moment I didn’t quite react much, just sat down with them for a few minutes, said hello to them and thanked them for coming all the way and I left.
Seriously, both me and my wife were raised the same way. Both our parents put in their hard earned money to raise us, give us good education, give us a memorable childhood, provide a safe and secure environment, but when the boy becomes the bridegroom, he goes on sale. Mind you it’s not the regular sale, where if you don’t have the money, you can walk away. Somehow the customer is obligated to not just take part in the sale, but actually end up paying more than the sell price, because apparently the demand is more. Sometimes there is also a bidding process for the groom.
The selling price varies depending on who you are, what you are, where you are and the price can be sometimes negotiated to be paid in kind or cash. One striking difference of this process is also that despite the customer buying this expensive commodity, the customer never gets to own it. On the contrary it’s the customer who has to pay the price for buying this commodity. In fact the entire customers family pays the price for the rest of their lives. Despite all this, the commodity also attracts a very high resale value, the value never diminishes. Age doesn’t even matter for this product, it’s good until expiry.
Thinking about in pure economic terms the bridegroom is probably the only product in the market, in any market national, international or developed or under developed, where the manufactures of the product, are guaranteed hefty returns.
In this economy where the investors are scared to put their money in the market because of its volatile nature, this product can help turn things around. May be its time this product gets international recognition, it should even be securitized and be listed on the exchange. The investors need not worry about market saturation as with a country of over a billion people there is no dearth of manufacturers. Also this is also the only product which has no restrictions what so ever. Anybody and everybody can manufacture this product. Rich or poor, young or adult or even aged, as long as the product is not expired, it will be worth every penny and beyond.
But isn’t this is a human rights violation where grooms are sold in the open market and could potentially be listed on the stock exchange. The only way to prevent this is for the groom to stop being a commodity, stop being on sale and start being a human.
- If you are are an eligible bachelor, then please stop being sold.
- If you were sold in the market before, then it’s still not too late, you can return the money to the customer
- If you were sold and embarrassed to return the money to the customer, then consider returning money to the society and help prevent this human rights violations.